My Name Is Victory! – Healing For Your “Father Wounds”

It is every girl’s desire to be a princess, especially in the eyes of the most important man in her life — her father. Unfortunately, many of those princesses end up living out a story similar to that of the fairytale story of Cinderella — the little girl who experienced the pain of abandonment by her father and left to the care of a hateful step-mother. Most “would-be” princesses’ fairytale lives end up shattered and compromised because of a “father-wound”. Father wounds happen as a result of “father hunger”. Father Hunger can be described as an insatiable desire to attract and appease the love of a father, the most important man in any woman’s life. A woman will go to great lengths to please her father, even if the father is negligent in his responsibilities towards her.

Please allow me to bring you into the biblical scene of Tamar in 2 Samuel 2:13. Tamar was a real-life princess, the daughter of King David. Tamar was a victim of Father Hunger. Tamar’s insatiable desire to please her father, King David, led her into a life spiraled out of control and full of regret and bitterness. King David’s negligence in his responsibility to protect his daughter allowed Tamar to be placed in harm’s way. Tamar’s half-brother, Amnon, lusted after Tamar and tricked his father into sending Tamar to care for Amnon because Amnon feigned sick. Being a good princess, she went and cared for Amnon by taking him some cakes she had prepared to feed him in hopes of making him feel better. I have one wife and six daughters and a mother, and it is amazing how a girl will go to great lengths to care for everyone else, even when it is hurting her. I have figured what women really want is to be loved and accepted through their serving. Tamar only wanted to please her father by going to Amnon. The type of cakes that Tamar prepared for Amnon can be translated as “things from the heart”, which were designated for occasions to make people feel better. Ladies, isn’t it interesting how you give your ‘heart’ to make things and people, both, better and or feel better, even to your own demise. Amnon tricked his half-sister into his bed-chamber, only to rape her and throw her out like a cheap street prostitute. Tamar was wearing a long-sleeved robe(of many colors) that are reserved for only princesses, a King’s virgin daughter. Amnon abused Tamar and threw her out and Tamar threw dirt upon her head in shameful disgust and tore her robe as a sign of her defeat.

I want to speak to the heart and encourage every Tamar tattered and torn by the bitter circumstances of life. You may feel as though you have been defeated by life’s circumstances. Your insatiable desire to attract the love your heart so longed for caused you to experience pain – even pain that may seem irreparable. But don’t forget who you really are! You see, Tamar means “palm tree” which also means “victory” & “triumph”. There was victory and triumph in Tamar the whole time.

Father wounds are a dangerous thing. But, there is victory in every wound you have or ever will experience. The victory is in you. “This is the victory that overcomes the world, even, our faith.” I encourage you to place your faith in an awesome “father” who will never let you down or abandon you. Your faith in God will give you the victory you need to overcome your circumstances every time! Tamar’s hope was crushed and she was willing to spend the rest of her life living like a servant and not a Princess. Your future can be different. Because the Word of God says, “Jesus Christ is our hope….” If your hope has been lost and you have torn your princess robe or are about to tear it, stop and run to your Father — Abba, our God, our Lord and Creator. In His arms are healing balm for every wound and broken place of your life! Run right into your Father God’s arms and find healing for your soul.

I love you all and I salute all of the Precious Princesses out there.

Blessings,
Pastor Dexter

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